Why It’s Okay To Love THINGS

You’re on your deathbed.
Surrounded by your closest friends and family.
You’ve got everything you need… but not necessarily everything you want…someTHING is missing.

Well, my message to you is this:
#1. You’re not a bad person.
#2. It’s OK to want THINGS.

Yes, of course we love our family and friends, and over anything else, we value them most… but whether you want to admit it or not, we also grow to have strong emotional attachments to objects too…

All the yogi’s and humanitarians of the world will convince you to let go of ‘things’… to clean, and clear your mind, to feng shui or whatever… some will claim its totally materialistic for you to want THINGS and to value things… but in my totally honest opinion, as long as you’re a decent person, wanting things just makes you sane…and human.

Now, I’m not saying your texting obsession is valuable, nor am I saying spending all of your money on fancy cars and clothing will bring you internal happiness… because it wont – but what I am saying is that there are certain objects in our lives that we develop beautiful, emotional, meaningful, relationships with… and that deserve to be wanted.

I’m also saying that no matter how much of “the art of letting go” you master, there are things you should hold on to – because they make you, you… and they make you, happy.

So, in order to pinpoint what these special kinds of objects are for different people, I created the following quiz.

BTW. There’s a difference between someTHING that will always make you happy forever, and an expensive pair of heels that will make you happy for 10 minutes.

AND out of my own curiosity, I would love to hear your feedback about what items you value most. Don’t overthink – write down whatever comes to mind first.

Here it goes.

THE SUPER DIFFICULT ‘THINGS’ QUIZ

1. You’re on your deathbed. You can choose three personal THINGS to have in your hospital room. What do you ask your family to bring for you?

a)
b)
c)

2. You’re permanently stranded on an Island, what three THINGS do you wish you had with you from home?

a)
b)
c)

3. Your house is burning down and you have 1 minute to grab three THINGS – what do you grab?

a)
b)
c)

4. You’re moving across the world – what three THINGS do you bring to make the journey with you?

a)
b)
c)

5. You’ve become homeless – what three THINGS do you refuse to sell?

a)
b)
c)

After identifying what these objects are for you, write down a separate list of every object that you chose more than once.

For the purposes of this *potentially* enlightening experience – remove any ‘survival’ items that you probably considered taking in these situations (because you’re a smart, safe, person who’s watched enough Survivor to know a machete or Advil would come in handy). Ex. water, food, medicine, clothing, weapons.

Now – analyze what items you have left and try to deeply consider why you chose that THING.

If you’re curious, here are my answers.

1. You’re on your deathbed. You can choose three personal THINGS to have in your hospital room. What do you ask your family to bring for you?

a) My stuffed animal dog Rosie that I’ve had since I was four years old… feels like home…  
b) A journal – pen & paper…. to write letters to people. 
c) My own bed… for ultimate comfort.

2. You’re permanently stranded on an Island, what three THINGS do you wish you had with you from home?

a) A machete… to make shelter.
b) A journal – pen & paper… to entertain myself.
c) A lighter… for fire.

3. Your house is burning down and you have 1 minute to grab three THINGS – what do you grab?

a) Rosie (the stuffed animal)… comfort item… and suddenly I feel 5 years old.
b) My memory box…would hate to lose these forever.
c) Laptop… lots of important documents/ stories/ pictures saved on this.

4. You’re moving across the world – what three THINGS do you bring to make the move with you?

a) My memory box… for reminders of home.
b) Rosie (again)… comfort item.
c) Laptop… to be able to write and Skype.

5. You’ve become homeless – what three THINGS do you refuse to sell?

a) Rosie (for the fourth time)… companionship? lol
b) My journal… to try and stay sane… could write a best-seller!?
c) Memory box… would give me some hope/ reminder of better times.

All right, now that I’ve made my list I need to remove any survival materials:
…. Bye machete, goodbye lighter.

Now, lets see what I mentioned more than once.
Rosie (4 times)
Memory box (3 times)
Journal (3 times)
Laptop (2 times)

Ok. So let’s analyze these results….

The crazy thing is, I never even expected to say Rosie, I haven’t even thought about her in a long time… and yet I mentioned her (yes she is a girl), four times. I got my stuffed dog Rosie when I was about four years old, and she was by my side everyday until I was about 12. Rosie was my favorite toy. I made her outfits out of kleenex and scotch tape, slept with her every night, and had a huge meltdown if I forgot her anywhere. She was my confidante through my parents divorce, (going back and forth between both houses with me). And while I don’t sleep with, or play with, Rosie anymore… somehow I can’t imagine not knowing where she was or not having her there in dark or scary situations… even as a 21 year old. Although I definitely take her for granted in my current life, nothing could replace the memories and bond I have with that stuffed THING. To me as a child, Rosie was real, and to this day, I love her. Yes. I totally do. *Prob going to cuddle her later cause now I’m nostalgic*

My memory box is a bit more self-explanatory… it’s a box filled with well, memories. Yes, I have a personal and emotional connection to a box of things – concert tickets, baby pictures, friendship bracelets, yearbooks, dried roses…. the list goes on. This box isn’t something I take out and look at… like hardly ever, but I have it because I know one day, I’ll want to. I also love the idea of showing my kids one day… This box has little bits and pieces of some of the happiest times of my life in it – things that remind me that I’ve lived a great life, and that I’ve accomplished a lot. To lose this box in say, a fire – would be devastating… because although I do have many memories locked visually into my brain… physical reminders are much more powerful to me. I feel like having this box with me,k wherever I was, would keep my spirits high, and give me a home-like comfort.

Next we have a journal. While I haven’t ever really kept a real journal or diary, I am constantly writing. Writing not only entertains me and helps to pass the time (say – while stranded on a deserted island), but writing helps me to stay sane. Having a pen and paper nearby is so important to me because it offers to me a medium in which I can express my creativity, jot down my thoughts, and voice my frustrations and feelings… I think no matter where I am in life, writing will always be one of the most important things to me… it allows me to leave a legacy… to reach others with my words… a journal is almost like a friend (if I want to get real sappy about it).

Finally, I mentioned my laptop – 2 times… and while I’m kind of ashamed that I value an electronic this much, it’s the honest truth. I bring my laptop EVERYWHERE. My laptop, just like a journal, allows me to write whenever inspiration hits me. And even better than a journal, my laptop allows me to connect to other people online – through mediums like the blog I’m writing this for right now. Aside from human to human contact, my laptop provides me with the next best way to stay connected. If I were across the world, my laptop would allow me to Skype family… it would allow me to write blogs about my experiences… it would allow me to upload pictures… to read… and to keep updated on the news, etc. So, while my laptop is the least important of the previous items… it’s special to me because it combines so many different parts of my life and passion into one… It’s not the laptop that I value, but the things it allows me to do, and the experiences it allows me to have.

So there you have it – Rosie, a journal and my memory box – THINGS I hold almost as dear to my heart as people.

So what?

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